it is Snow Flower and the Secret Fan by Lisa See. This is one very powerful book with insight into how women were treated in China - and probably still are being treated much this same way. It is also wonderful because it goes into friendships and what they mean to us as women - it ends incredibly sad and regretful - but it does make you view your relationships in a different light.
Another powerful book I am almost finished with is I Wish for You a Beautiful Life - written by Korean birth mothers. Wow - to read these letters that mothers have written to their sons and daughters after they have given them up for adoption is heart-wrenching but also enlightening to me as an adoptive mother. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND this one - it is wonderful insight into why birth moms even came to give up their little ones.
Lastly - if you want another book on adoption - a friend shared with me today yet another book I am excited to read. It is Carried Safely Home by Kristin Swick Wong. I can't give you a synopsis yet, but I was told it deals more with how adoption can even encourage you in your walk with God - and I've seen that in my life- can't wait to read it!!